girlie talk: my occasional breast obsession

[bluegreen17]

girlie talk time. nothing disgusting,just the nitty gritty of having breasts and living on a planet with gravity. i hate my bras and i hate bra-shopping. i'm not exactly trying to attract men with my breasts (i could have in years past,but i want to be loved for me,not my breasts.) but i don't want to look as bad as one sometimes can with a lousy bra.

oh,sure,some folks may say no one's looking at your breasts...but most men do. they find them fascinating,don't they? and i have a sense of aesthetics that even though i don't dress to attract,i don't exactly want to look repulsive. i may be overstating the case (i worry about many many things,many of which are plain silly) but anyway...

um,what was my point? oh,yeah,in doing some research,i stumbled upon this:

"in today's world,physical appearance is often the key to social acceptance. a woman may become self-conscious[yeah,no kidding]because she thinks her breasts do not meet society's standards. [yeah,and you're helping a lot!]plastic surgery procedures available for the breast can help a woman have the breasts she desires. if a woman thinks her breasts are too small or too large, or she may just want to lift them up a little,plastic surgery may be appropriate."

yeah,right. what a world we live in...

and yeah,being semi-anonymous online (there is a small handful of folks i know in real life who know i have this journal) makes it easier to write about stuff like this. not that i think anyone is going to be able to relate...i don't think i have too many women near my age or older who can relate to this dilemma who read my journal,so the point here is more social commentary.

sadly,my cowlick doesn't look quite as charming as it did yesterday,so i must now try to tame it. yeah,in my spare time...when i'm not brushing and flossing eternally...i hate that chore...but at least i only had one small cavity this time 'round...and it was so small,the novacaine was going to be more painful than the drilling so i didn't get an injection this time. ouch,it did hurt,but at least not for long,and i didn't feel like i had a fat lip for several hours afterwards,so hallelujah!

p.s. the latest issue of stuff magazine has pamela anderson on the cover and she's nude inside.(surprise!). strangely,the pictures look very very airbrushed...maybe they are supposed to,because i think it's a emulation of the vargas style. i can't believe anyone could have such a small waist. and as for her very large breasts...two comments: 1. i wouldn't want to carry them around...2. this is after she had her implants removed? backaches anyone?

oh,and one more bitchy comment...i think it's pretty bad that a woman with two young children is constantly naked in national magazines. well,happy mother's day,pamela! i'm glad she's not my mother.

Comments

[nimoy.livejournal.com]

Bra shopping is the worst. THE worst.
And something I've tried to accept more recently---no matter what size people have, they almost always want something else [[the grass is greener, anyone?]] I've never met anyone content with that aspect of them. Ever.

[daisydumont.livejournal.com]

i can relate big-time. i'll be 52 next month, have had a lifetime full of ill-fitting bras, worrying about the size of these things, getting mammograms, the whole ball of wax. there was a time at around age 49 when suddenly everything went south... oh well, eternal youth is not a gift given to me!

[gerry.livejournal.com]

i dont think that man look evolutionary conditioned for voluptuous breasts but for a voluptuous pelvis or ass.....we say in switzerland this or that women has a bear-friendly pelvis and we dont talk about bear-friendly breasts

i myself am a typical ass man...
i think, man who looks primary on breasts have psychologically a defizit
on getting nourrished or another mother-defizit...that's my theory,,they more are looking for a mother then a women

[bluegreen17]

this is a massive generalization,but judging by the popularity and quantity of magazines with scantily-clad heavily breasted and emphasized women on the cover,which includes not only general men's magazines but also car,motorcycle and bodybuilding magazines as well,in this country...well,perhaps most american men are pretty infantile. and if i was an american man,perhaps i would be as well,though i would hope to subdue it or place less importance on it in say,my forties,than in my teens...

interesting observation about the biological implications!

Re:

[gerry.livejournal.com]

i came to the same conclusion about the american culture, that men are pretty tits-addicted.....

for me breasts don't trigger much longing but beautiful curved hips and wonderful formed pelvis initiate a deep longing...in psychoanalysis i have heard they talk about the longing for the uterus, the longing for the prenatal state of live
perhaps this longing is typical for human beings they never wanted to enter through birth in that brutal society
we habe built on earth

not to quibble: a matter of aesthetics

[finnagain.livejournal.com]

perhaps the problem with pammy is not that she's posing naked
as the human body is not a source of shame
but that its not artistic?

Re: not to quibble: a matter of aesthetics

[bluegreen17]

well,i think that art is one thing,and being a 'sex object' is another. it probably is a matter of aesthetics somewhat.
i guess i cant speak for her children,but i'm still glad my mother didn't pose naked in national magazines geared toward stimulating men (and i suppose some women as well)...not that there's anything wrong with that.

how would you feel about your mother/sister/girlfriend/wife posing naked in a national men's magazine? i'm curious as to your opinion on that.

[silverwraith.livejournal.com]

bra shopping makes me feel ill. I hate it. I only wear the damn things about half the time, anyway (just call me a hippie like that)...fortunately I'm not extremely well-endowed in this particular area so it's not a big calamity if I go bra-less occasionally. (most often in the summer, because the damn things make me hot.)

I can't decide which is worse: bra shopping, or pants shopping. *cringe*

[allogenes.livejournal.com]

Your quoted comment:

"in today's world, physical appearance is often the key to social acceptance. a woman may become self-conscious [yeah,no kidding] because she thinks her breasts do not meet society's standards. [yeah, and you're helping a lot!] plastic surgery procedures available for the breast can help a woman have the breasts she desires. if a woman thinks her breasts are too small or too large, or she may just want to lift them up a little, plastic surgery may be appropriate."

Reminds me of about a thousand emails and ads that I have seen telling me (1) that my penis is way too small to satisfy any woman, and (2) that NO woman would ever tell me so. This establishes a wonderful paradox...that can only be resolved through herbal pills, vacuum pumps, creams, weights (!), acupuncture, and surgery! :-)

[bluegreen17]

create a market! if you can make people feel inadequate,but you are selling the fix...

ha.