bluegreen17 | (no subject)

just pondering.

i like alone-time and i have some characteristics of being a loner. but...

i'm not really.

it's just that i dislike much of the behavior of most people. and though i may casually like quite a few people (i get along with most people at work),there are very few people whose company i find more interesting than my own. the majority of people bore me,especially the ones i encounter in everyday life.

on lj,i've found quite a few interesting people,though of course there are more to choose from on lj then there are in everyday life.

probably most people don't really think about or care whether their friends are interesting to them. they're just there. i suppose that's a good thing. it fosters community. it's possible that the internet has spoiled me by knowing of all the interesting people who don't live in my neighborhood,though it's just an extension of the whole penpalling thing...i've had pen pals that were more interesting than my neighbors.

this makes me appear to be a snob. it's just that i don't know many people with similar interests (speaking of which,does anyone know what happened to interest-matching on lj? i was bummed out to find that it was gone.) to hang around with.

i don't know why i'm rambling about this. just thinking out loud i guess.

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I totally relate to what you are saying... and I can see exactly where you are coming from. I am the same way... and I think it is because (for me) my interests are ecentric (sp) - and "Different"... examples... spirituality, nonduality, advaita, zen, art, photography...writing haiku... and what not... where the ones who surround me are more into other more "outgoing" things... social activity, clubs, etc. I am very comfortable in my aloneness... yet - often there is this longing for a "Soul-friend" to be able to share "real-time" activity with... but so hard to find. My state (Michigan) is very dry that way. I am so different in what I read, music I listen to, spritiual views... and quite committed... I cannot bring myself to find interest in their topics - so I would rather be alone often too... sigh. ;) Here though... you can "find" others who understand your thoughts... it is somewhat like a singles ad, you can reply or not... and be selective, and comfortable for the most part. Come as you are - casual - and at your own pace. .... haha, now I am rambling....

From what I understand, LJ's interest-matching feature was overloading the system a bit. They're hoping to redesign it and bring it back at some point.

I really like your icon. How did you get one that's animated?

I made it. :-)

Glad you liked it!

My sentiments exactly! I don't like being a loner, but I'm finding myself extremely bored in the company of most people that I meet.

I have some other mothers in my neighborhood that I'm friends with, but I feel like they fill the time spent so full of organized social activities that there is no time to just 'chill' and talk.

There is one lady in my neighborhood that I found that I click with though, but she works all day and is a single mom so we hardly ever get to hang out. But, she emails me from work everyday. We both love art and talking about God...and we both have boys. We are both lounge lizards too.

I'm looking for some people that don't take life so seriously and like to take time to slow down and 'smell the roses'. Need someone to just get together with for coffee or tea and talk about 'whatever'. Like the show Sienfield....talk about 'nothing.'

:-)

Yes. You have expressed something that I have felt much of the time as well. I was hoping to meet some like-minded serious fine artists in lj, but haven't had much luck. Most of what I read is self-absorbed mundanity, but thats ok, this is after all peoples journals, they can write about whatever they want!! I have found some interesting people to read, but was disappointed in the interests page on fine art, or painting....many people list it as an interest, but are not really doing it or talking about it. There have got to be some seriously dedicated and creative people here!!!