why talking for the sake of talking annoys me

[bluegreen17]

yesterday at suppertime at work,i was perusing a book called the introvert advantage and decided to take the quiz in it. to my great surprise,i marked 27 of a possible 29 statements as true for me,meaning i'm extremely introverted. i mentioned this to the several people in the breakroom who were also eating their supper and told them to be quiet and leave me alone,i'm an introvert. then i joked that really,people don't think i am because i'm such a great actor. but it's the truth. i've become a great actor in years of retail,and really,of life. it's been very practical and useful over the years. it's also often kind of fun,and i'm glad i learned how to do it. it makes dealing with the public--well,at least one or two at a time--at times quite pleasant. but i know i'm 'switching it on'. it's a skill i've learned,and i'm glad that i did.

so,of course i came home and started researching introversion. and i found this article and i had to laugh when i read this statement:

many actors, I've read, are introverts, and many introverts, when socializing, feel like actors

bingo!

this explains why,even though i'm an introvert,i've decided lately that it would be fun to have my own talk show. i like acting part of the time,as long as i have lots of peaceful alonetime,or at the very least,time with people who know to spend time with me without talking all the time. i do like to connect...i just like to talk about things i'm interested in,and not just talk for the sake of talking (which i guess is what extraverts do...this is probably why i hate listening to people who can't get off their cellphones--i've never overheard a remotely interesting conversation.) and on my talk show,i'd only interview people and promote things i like.

i don't totally buy into any theory that totally tries to explain people--give it up!--but sometimes it's nice to see where someone else sees the same things that you do.

Comments

[allogenes.livejournal.com]

A lot of people tend to think of introversion-extroversion as a temporal process, one that has more to do with preferred activity rather than required activity. I'm an introvert whenever I take those tests, but most people don't think of me that way because when I am out and about I act more extroverted. People who are introverted in tendency often work quite well as extroverts but they have to crash a bit and be alone when they get home. The same sort of idea applies to extroverts who can handle some quiet time but need to get some interaction after to make themselves feel right.

Not sure if I am making any sort of point. Your post just reminded me of all of this stuff I read somewhere. :-)